Why would someone tell me their mum has died 9 months later?

This elderly lady lived up the road from me with her daughter and son-in-law. We used to exchange Xmas cards and last year I didn't get one from her. She didn't open her door much as I tried to find out many a time how she was, but couldn't get any answer. The daughter came knocking on my door... show more This elderly lady lived up the road from me with her daughter and son-in-law. We used to exchange Xmas cards and last year I didn't get one from her. She didn't open her door much as I tried to find out many a time how she was, but couldn't get any answer. The daughter came knocking on my door telling me last week she died last November. Why tell me so late?
Update: Should I send them a sympathy card or is it too late?
Update 2: She knew we knew each other, Cogito.
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