Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 12 months ago

How do I deal with my embarrassing 11 year old cousin (he has autism and our extended family gets together alot)?

I’m a 14 year old girl with a big family. The problem is my autistic cousin, who doesnt get why you’re not supposed to ask personal questions. He keeps pestering our 23 year old family friend about when she’s gonna have a baby. She doesn’t seem to be planning it anytime soon. Besides she already told him that she’s a college student living with mom so its not gonna happen now.He proceeds to talk about how this kid at school told him that most grown ups have sex. In a family get-together!!! We’re not allowed to be loud because he throws tantrums whenever its loud. Theres tons of other things like, being really overfriendly to strangers (its creepy), mumbling , and if something bothers him he’ll have a HUGE meltdown. Once I ran into a group of people from school and they asked “oh that’s your cousin?” While he was doing something really strange. Sometimes he moves in a way that makes people stare. Its just that there’s so many things that make people feel uncomfortable and i wish he wouldn’t do these things

4 Answers

  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    12 months ago

    Somebody needs to explain to him that his cousin is too young to have a baby and that he needs to stop asking. This wouldn't be you because you are just a child too. This would be something for your brother's parents to handle. Do know that at your age EVERYTHING is a dramatic humiliation so you need to lighten up too.

  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    12 months ago

    not much you can do about it, you cant change him

  • 12 months ago

    Does ignoring him work, usually someone will notice aggressive behavior like that, if you don't say anything and do something to stop it.

  • Mark
    Lv 5
    12 months ago

    You might like to do some background research into autism - from a professional organisation - so you can better understand it. Most of what you say, is part of the 'condtion', so your strong judgements about him/it, aren't bringing any enlightenment to the picture. If anything, likely making it worse.

    Austistics are a level of openness and innocence that ought to be emulated more often. Not the meltdowns - that's their wiring system on overload, but certainly the belief that a 'stranger is an unmet friend' is something we can embrace, instead of shun. Remember that developmentally, his brain isn't 11 y.o. It's at least 6 years younger.

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