Confused on sexuality?

I am pretty sure that I am gay but have had some recent doubts. I have never really wanted to be in a sexual or romantic relationship with another man. I look at well-built men but rarely do I get aroused. I just look and feel nothing. I feel like I am more comfortable watching porn than doing it for reals with... show more I am pretty sure that I am gay but have had some recent doubts. I have never really wanted to be in a sexual or romantic relationship with another man. I look at well-built men but rarely do I get aroused. I just look and feel nothing. I feel like I am more comfortable watching porn than doing it for reals with another man.

I have always wanted to have children but found it impossible due to my sexual orientation.

The main problem began last year when I fell in love with a woman. I wanted to have a relationship with her, have babies with her, but I don t really feel sexually attracted to her. I am confused. I asked her out but she rejected me. It has been over a year since this has happened and I still find myself in longing to be with her. I have had other small crushes on girls but not as long as this one.

Nothing makes sense to me anymore. I am still pining over a girl that I am not sexually attracted to. Why does her rejection hurt so much?
Update: I have watched gay porn about 99% of the time since I was 15. I am almost 30. I have noticed myself watching less porn and becoming more interested in dating women but not really interested in sex.
Update 2: I have had small crushes on both men and women. Neither have lasted longer than a few hours. I have felt more sexually aroused by the male ones though. The crush on the girl that I am day dreaming about has lasted over a year.
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