Yes, the lawyer is exactly right. If you adopt a child, by yourself, then there is no father in the picture. However, your own child HAS a father. He may be out of the picture but he is still the father of the child, and if you wanted child support, you had the option to go and get it, through the court system. In fact, your child deserved child support. You did your child a big disservice not obtaining what he/she was "entitled" to.
Certified Paralegal, with 25+ years' experience.