My Fiancé sleeps in his 3 year olds bed in her bedroom and not with me. What would you do?

It started out with her staying up in our bed eating gold fish and watching iPad until past midnight. I’d get kicked all night long. I woke up hot and every time someone moved or woke up with night terrors, I was up! Plus, our morning intimacy was out the window. I was fed up! Her routine is out of whack in my... show more It started out with her staying up in our bed eating gold fish and watching iPad until past midnight. I’d get kicked all night long. I woke up hot and every time someone moved or woke up with night terrors, I was up! Plus, our morning intimacy was out the window. I was fed up!

Her routine is out of whack in my opinion, and she plays him to stay up later. She asks for Gold fish and he goes and gets it at midnight. I told him this is no more! He agreed to a strict parenting routine.

Well, last night she wanted to stay in our room and he put the bed in our room. After he lost the iPad and took it out on me, I told him I needed privacy, and demanded that he move her bed to her room. I said he can lay next to her in the pull out trundle next to her bed until she falls asleep. I expected him to come to bed after she was sleep.

It’s 1am and he’s not in bed. I went in to check on them and she’s awake watching the iPad eating crackers that he brought her (after I cooked a full meal that she ate!) and he is passed out snoring IN HER TWIN BED, with a little table pulled up to her bed and his computer on with an adult movie playing for him to watch. He’s camping out!! I can’t get him to transition into her sleeping in her own room without being dependent on him getting her crackers at midnight, iPads, computers playing adult movies, and him sleeping in her bed.

How can I fix this? I want my man in our bed. I want a routine, and he agreed to it, but sneaks and does the opposite.
Update: I am this mans wife lady. I'm his fiance, and we both are getting married. So thats not an answer. I need to know how to fix this because we do plan to have more children. Thank you. Hes the stepfather to my children, and I'm a step mom. We live together!
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