You sound awesome. 10/10, would totally hang.
As for guys, sure, some of them are drawn to cutesy dainty helplessness — but are those the guys you want to attract? There are plenty of smart, funny, strong men who are drawn to smart, funny, strong women. I don’t know where you are in the country that people are telling you to “embrace your femininity”, but you might want to consider life in New England or the Pacific Northwest where people value fine character traits like yours.