My mom doesn’t take my mental health seriously?
Hi, I’m Kayla and I’m 19. About 2 months ago I got out of an emotional and physically abusive relationship that’s left me with severe anxiety and depression. I moved back in with my parents hoping to get some support and never did. It’s like they still don’t even know I’m here. They said they’ll be here when I’m ready to talk but the thing is.... I CANT. I tried to talk to my mom about it and all she said was they it just runs in the family and we all have “those days“ and continued to make it about her. I didn’t get any emotional support at all. Never did growing up. Anyways, I finally got the courage after a month to set an appointment with my GP.
A few days later, my mom comes asking me for money for rent knowing I’m not working and can’t find a job because my anxiety is really bad. I told her I didn’t have it. And that I am trying to pay for my medical costs right now... and then she continues to ask me the next day for at least half. I spoke to my dad about her struggling and he asked me when I’m getting a job and I couldn’t answer, and he said that they both wanted to have a talk with me about my anxiety and I feel like my mental health is only convenient to them when they need something. I’m not trying to get off topic but my question is am I overreacting? Should I be helping with rent right now since I moved back in? I just feel like I’m not being taken seriously whatsoever and now I feel like a failure because I can’t help them.
- Anonymous8 months ago
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- Anonymous9 months ago
No. They are serious about expecting you to make it as an adult, in basics like job, etc. You weren't born into a rich family. Get some counseling and slow down.
- StasiaLv 410 months ago
You're working hard. That's what your parents can expect.
- Anonymous10 months ago
19 and you consider yourself an adolescent? Guess you're right.
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- 10 months ago
Ignore the rude answers..Edna is just a nasty old woman who is nasty to everyone..sorry , your parents are ridiculous. You are about to turn 19 , not 25.. I can't believe they are expecting rent from you this fast. I have anxiety and depression so I understand. You should for sure talk to someone and try to figure out what maybe you are good at and pick a position that wont cause so much anxiety. Example , I cant do fastfood lol too crazy for me.
- edwardLv 710 months ago
I won’t be the most helpful, that i can promise you. I have no pity for people who say they have anxiety. I don’t buy it. Just calm the heck down! That is how you get rid of it. You’re using mental illness as a crutch when in reality it doesn’t exist. You don’t have memory loss or sensory disorders. You don’t have constant psychosis or hallucinations. You’re letting yourself down by using something undetectable as a crutch to walk on because you don’t want to face your own inadequacy and it’s easier to blame something else. Get real and face it head on.
- FaithLv 710 months ago
Unfortunately not many understand mental health problems. But, remember this isn't your mom's mental health, it is yours. Now that you are an adult it's time to start fighting for yourself and living the best life you can. That includes making sure you are in therapy, taking medicine if needed, working &/or college. You need to work daily to improve your life. This includes getting into the habit of paying rent and bills.
- MaxiLv 710 months ago
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, you are being supported by your parents, in fact 100% living in their home for free, they could have told you no you are not welcome back, but they didn't and you are an adult so however sorry you are feeling about your filed relationship, you NEED to get your act together, get yourself a job and pay your way,
You need to decide if you want them to treat you like mature adult, if so you have to behave like one... because what you have written is all about "poor me" and very immature
- HelenLv 710 months ago
Well done for going to your GP. It can be hard to take that first step especially when you're not being supported at home. You are trying and that's all your parents can expect.
After everything you've been through it isn't surprising that you're struggling. I do think your parents are being too hard on you. Are they in financial difficulty?
The fact is, if you got a job now with things as they are, chances are you'd mess up or the pressure would make your mental health a million times worse. With mental health it isn't always a case of "throw yourself in at the deep end". That can actually often have an even worse outcome, which is perhaps something you need to make your parents understand.
You need to get help for your anxiety and depression. It may be that you are referred on to a counselor or prescribed medication - neither of which is anything to be ashamed of.
Breakups are hard under the best of circumstances, not to mention your age and the alleged abuse. Hang in there.
- Anonymous10 months ago
If you're not in college full time ..then yes you should be working full time and paying them rent.
Start seeing a therapist.