At a wedding, does the church decide what the words in a reading are or is up to the person who reads the reading?
- TrishLv 511 months agoFavorite Answer
You can discuss that with the officiant. At my sister's wedding she didn't want them to say for poorer in the for richer or poorer part so they took out or for poorer. The marriage didn't last obviously and she didn't ever get married again but she has done pretty well for herself all things considered.
- KellyLv 711 months ago
It widely varies by the church. Some only allow you to pick from things they have available and others let you choose. It's the same thing with music.
- sunshine_melLv 711 months ago
The couple selects readings, and generally asks friends/family to read them.
At church weddings, one generally has to be a religious reading; the church may make suggestions if you don't have anything in mind
- Oh Boy!Lv 511 months ago
The couple getting married decide what's read.
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- MamawidsomLv 711 months ago
It is a combination of the couple and the officiant based on the traditions of the religion. For example, many demonizations will provide suggestions or a list of verses from which the couple can choose. They may also make changes to the standard vows. In other denomination or non-denomination churches the couple designs the ceremony and selects the readings and the vows.
- JerryLv 611 months ago
Depending on the pastor, it could be either...we wrote most of our vows and let him do his thing as well.
- Anonymous11 months ago
That's up to the couple and the officiant to decide.
The couple can request something very specific, or give general preferences, or can completely leave it up to the officiant. The officiant can accept or decline.
Generally speaking, the couple will choose an officiant that they are compatible with. For example, if you're two atheist guys getting married you probably aren't going to ask a Hasidic Rabbi to marry you. A Unitarian or Justice of the Peace may be a better fit.
- Coach SimonLv 711 months ago
Generally it should be the bride and her family, but the groom may want an input. If they have no particular preference, the officiant will probably help and advise......
- FoofaLv 711 months ago
If it's a reading by the officiate that person will usually ask the couple what tone they want and will often run the draft past them before the wedding. If it's a reading by a family member or the bride/groom themselves they'll sometimes have to clear that with the officiate, but not always.
- oldprofLv 711 months ago
It's up to the bride and groom. They work it out with the pastor/priest/rabbi during rehearsal. The vows are also chosen by the bride and groom.