4 year old is hitting teacher and not listening to anyone?
Yesterday- he hit his teacher in the face (when I picked him up her cheek was BRIGHT red- he hit her right on the cheek bone), he called her a *****, spit at her, threw markers, ran around pushing chairs off the table at his friends. This is the 2nt time in the past week he's been sent home. Last Thursday I had to leave work 3 hours early because he kicked her, hit her, spit at her and told her he was "gonna kick your (her) ***" I swear I don't know whats gotten in to him. Yes I curse but not to that extent. I am trying to sensor myself. The only hitting that occurs in my house is a swat/spanking to his bottom if hes VERY naughty.
I have 3 appointments this Thursday with 2 child behavioral specialists (1 is a Dr. 1 works with our daycare. They're also going to observe him at daycare). When I asked him why he hit her yesterday he calmly told me "because she tried to stop me (from throwing markers)". he said basically the same thing last Thursday too. I don't know what to do!
We've done reward systems with stars (5 stars he gets a book....every 5 stars he gets something different. all the way up to 30 stars= new dvd movie.) I told him yesterday if he was good ALL week long I'd take him to see Cars 2 in the movie theater.