Why does my ex keep coming back is it love or lust?

for the past four years we've been off and on. we broke up a lot. i'm already fed up with him. i'm trying to move on. whenever i try moving on that's when he shows up. why does he keep coming back when something terrible happens to him or his family member? i keep having dreams of getting back... show more for the past four years we've been off and on. we broke up a lot. i'm already fed up with him. i'm trying to move on. whenever i try moving on that's when he shows up. why does he keep coming back when something terrible happens to him or his family member? i keep having dreams of getting back together. this time i don't want to be with him. i made up my mind. is it love or lust?
Update: from him
Update 2: why is he wasting my time?
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