Is this an insult to his girlfriend or was he just being responsible?
A late-twenties couple started dating earlier this year. They do not use condoms during sex but she tracks her ovulation and he "pulls out." She told him that he can *** inside her when she's not ovulating so that they can experience the orgasm together but he said no, he will always pull out to be safe and avoid risk. Neither want to have a baby, but she knows she cannot get pregnant outside of her ovulation days + the few days before and after ovulation; that the rest of the month is safe. She took it a little too personal, even though she doesn't want to risk it either, that he didn't want to *** inside her and would rather pull out to avoid any risk whatsoever. Is he just being responsible or should she take offense to this?
- EdnaLv 75 months agoFavorite Answer
His girlfriend is correct when she says the only time she can get pregnant is when she's ovulating, BUT does she really know when she's going to ovulate? Most women don't have a clue.
They're BOTH being irresponsible. If they want avoid pregnancy, she needs to get herself on some form of reliable hormonal birth control, and forget about trying to predict ovulation and especially forget about pulling out. Pulling out is NOT birth control.
- 5 months ago
tell her to try anal
- PippinLv 75 months ago
How does she 'track her ovulation?' If she is using natural family planning correctly and carefully, and they avoid intercourse until AFTER she has ovulated that's fine, and there is no reason to pull out.
If she is using an app, or guessing, and he is 'pulling out' they are trying for a baby. Or are at least entirely happy to have one.
- be reasonableLv 45 months ago
The pull out method is very risky. If they don't want to make a baby use a CONDOM.
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- MissALv 75 months ago
A guy not wanting to put 100% of the responsibility for avoiding pregnancy on his partner... is generally considered to be a good thing.
Normally people doing the fertility awareness method make some effort to involve the male partner in understanding the process, rather than just saying, “Baby I know you can’t give me a baby. By magic.” Why hasn’t she educated him if she wants him to rely on this?
- LizBLv 75 months ago
If he was really being responsible he'd use a condom, regardless of whatever method of birth control she claims to be using.
- AmarettaLv 75 months ago
If he wants to be responsible, he'll wear a condom.
- Ranchmom1Lv 75 months ago
Pulling out is not birth control.
- Anonymous5 months ago
Very easy to get pregnant that way. Cycles change.