Men aren't the only ones who do this. People who are immature (male or female) tend to carry grudges and seek revenge. Just stay away from people like this, and extract them from your life as much as possible. My ex husband was like this, and he took the cue from his mother, who continually held a grudge against people. They both practiced trying to get revenge for imagined ills. I finally got enough of the jealousy, hatred, and vindictiveness, and left after years of emotional abuse. My ex spent the rest of his life trying to make my life as miserable as possible, until the day he died.