Ah, the age old poor little me syndrome. Well, if what you say is correct, and you are acutely aware of it, then you must know why they are doing it. If you know why they are doing it, and its something that you cam personally improve upon, why don't you ?
Its not possible to be any more specific unless we know what the problem is.. It may not be a personal problem, the problem may be that you have a set of kinky friends, in which case get rid of them cos they are worthless. Not all 'friends' are worth having you know. Get with it.