Anyone can be male, but not everyone is a MAN. There are two kinds of men in this world: Givers and Takers. The Givers are the providers, they are the real men that contribute to society and aspire to leave behind a legacy that will make the world a better place. The Takers are the users who only aspire to benefit themselves and do not think about what they can do for others or society. There is always something that one can do for the person they love if they really WANT to. Men who don't earn enough money would buy things for their girlfriend that is within their budget, it might not be very expensive, but they ALWAYS try to get something for her that would put a smile on her face. And men who don't earn anything will DO THINGS for her, they are always at her beck-and-call running errands for her and resolving her problems to make sure her life is stress-free. The way these men give is through their SERVICE because they don't have the financial power to provide her with the material things that she likes. If they did, they would do more for her. Another way that a man could do things that benefit his girlfriend is to NOT take her money (esp to finance his hobby). Furthermore, a girl doesn't have to ASK for a gift or show that she is discontented by the fact that her boyfriend has never bought anything for her before he will go out and buy her something. If she has to ask for it first, then it is not a gift, now is it? And just because your girlfriend is happy giving and spending on you doesn't mean that she is happy about YOU not giving or spending on her (I really don't know how you came about this convenient conclusion). Your girl is satisfied with this arrangement only because her low self-esteem makes her believe that the things she does for you can buy and maintain your love. But when her self-esteem improves a notch, she'll find herself a man who actually knows how to give in return. So you really have no excuse here. You're a Taker and that places you at the lowest bottom of the pyramid of masculine status. No real man wants to be a kept man - who is being happily provided for by a woman and doing nothing in return for her other than providing sex occasionally (which is also another form of taking!). But unfortunately, men like you do exist in the world. I believe God allowed men like you to exist so that you can serve as an example of what a man should NOT be. Just like the way darkness exists so that we can know what light is, and ugly exists so that we can know what beauty is. But it is not too late for you to change and start acting like a man, after all, no force can contend with the will of man.