Getting placement of a nephew.?
So we are trying to get placement of a biological nephew that is currently in a foster home. Both parents are in jail/treatment but would be out in a couple months. We didn’t know the baby was family until baby was about 5-6 months. Then we were offered baby and we went to fill out foster license but our case worker got fired so it put a hold on everything for about a month then new people contacted us to finish up the paperwork and we did and we started taking him for visits every week (only allowed us an overnight) we asked to increase our visits and were told no maybe in the future. We already petitioned the court to get placement but that’s a month away. Baby just turned one. Cps (child protective service) said it would be traumatizing to move him with us and that the bond he has with the foster parent would make baby unable to bond in the near future. Foster parent isn’t related to baby at all. We want baby! Would we win in court? Cps team based everything off statistics that’s it’s not a good idea to place him with us cause of the bond he has with the foster parent. We have been taking him every week for about a few months now.
- KellyLv 78 months ago
You need to look at what is in his best interest, not what is in yours. If he's well bonded with the foster family, he needs to stay with them. It's likely that you will lose in court, despite being a relative. The judge often rules based on the recommendation of the social worker of the child and what they feel is in the best interest of the child.
What interests you in this boy if you didn't even know he existed prior?
Foster is also slated to be temporary. He may or may not become eligible for adoption at some point. Parents being in jail doesn't mean they won't regain custody at some point.
If his parents will be out of jail in a few months and then complete their parenting plan, they will get him back meaning the child would have to endure another move and transition to another home. This can be detrimental to his well being, being bounced around like that. The goal in foster care is to be with them, not you.
DNA makes you related, it doesn't necessarily make you family.
Being related doesn't make you the best option either.
- Tri-HarderLv 78 months ago
So it's more important for you to win than to do what's in his best interests? That proves CPS is right.
- Ranchmom1Lv 78 months ago
If the foster parents are taking good care of him, it is best that he remain with them rather than transitioning to another home, and then yet another home when his parents get out of jail.
I would continue to visit with him whenever possible.
- lalaLv 78 months ago
Sorry but CPS are right
Chance you win a courtroom are slim