Anonymous asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 6 months ago

How can I learn to be better at talking to people?

Whenever I have any type of conversation, I involuntarily clam up. Then, later, I think of stuff I could have said. It drives me nuts. How can I become good at speaking to people? Any advice would be appreciated.

6 Answers

  • Blearg
    Lv 5
    6 months ago
    Favorite Answer

    Improv classes, journalling, listening to good conversations on interview podcasts...

    Toastmasters is for public speaking, which doesn't seem quite the same. From what you've described I really get that imptov techniques in particular might help you bridge the gap you're struggling with between your thoughts and getting them out in time. I also think that writing, talking, or thinking out your thoughts and feelings on some popular or favorite subjects could help. I know for me, the people who have been most impressed by my conversation skills have happened to bring up a topic I have studied and thought about a lot on my own. I have so many ideas that if I think them up right there, it is hard to describe. But if I've taken the time to intellectually explore the subject beforehand, I already know how to express the ideas and how to segway between different points more smoothly.

  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    just practice talking talking to people rnore

  • 6 months ago

    It just came with time for me. I think I reached a point in my mid twenties where I just didn't care anymore.

  • 6 months ago

    Listen - really llisten - to what the other person is saying. Don't just sit there with your mouth open ready to jump in and say something. Let them finish; think briefly about what they said. SOMETHING must come to your mind, so say it.

    And again, LISTEN to their reply

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  • Mark
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    Try Toastmasters meetings.

  • 6 months ago

    The way to become a good conversationalist is to listen a lot and ask questions. You see, people love to talk about themselves. The more they talk, the more interesting you become.

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