My grandfather was an alcoholic. I have been traumatized not by that but by my mother using me to get him back. How do I recover?
My Mom stole my grandfather from me so she was the one who hurt me, not the alcoholic. I have a sense of shame, loss, and sadness that follows me to this day 13 years after his death. I am in my 40's and still grieving. We got close when he got ill and cut back on drinking so I was close for the last 13 years of his life. But from ages 7 to 15 I was grounded cause of his illness and possibly mistakes.
Alcoholism is a disease but my mother punished him instead of showing empathy and rehab was not as easy in those days.
How do I get over the trauma my mother inflicted on me as a kid by using me to get her father back for having a disease?