So my girlfriend got a job a couple of months ago from a friends recommendation to be a personal assistant and soon after things started getting shaky between us. We would no longer talk as much and everything I seemed to do would annoy her, and I generally didn’t feel as much love coming from her as before.
They had gone out clubbing a few times with her, the boss and two other friends and this is when my girlfriend told me that she had suspicions that her boss liked her as he would often tell her he ‘really likes her’, so no guessing there. I told her I felt uncomfortable with them going out like that and that I feel she should have a professional relationship with her boss. I can’t remember what the outcome was now but it didn’t stop.
Last night we had a long talk as we felt our relationship wasn’t how it used to be and after some interrogation she told me her boss ‘really really likes her’ and would attempt to kiss her every time they went out, which would be once every couple of weeks. They would also dance together with him behind her; I don’t go clubbing a lot myself but surely that isn’t appropriate whilst in a relationship, unless that’s just how you dance in the club?
I told her how uncomfortable this makes me feel and that she needs to explicitly tell him to stop, she said she tells him when he tries kissing her but he carries on the next time. He also continuously tells her at work how much he likes her and that ‘he won’t stop trying’. She then tells me that she likes how he chases her and she likes how it feels because she feels like she had to ‘chase’ me. On top of that she said she wants this person to be in her life because they’re really good friends but she would never do anything with him because she doesn’t find him attractive.
I don’t know whether it’s my jealousy getting the better of me or if tbf is situation is in fact weird, as this is my first ever relationship I would appreciate some advice and your opinions on the situation, thank you.
TL;DR: my GF’s boss is really into her and has attempted to kiss her numerous times whilst they’re out in a club and continuously tells her at work he ‘likes her’. She says she wants him to be in her life and sees him as a really good friend.