I deal with a lot of divorces in my profession. There are two categories of cheaters. Some men cheat, either get caught or don't get caught, either confess or don't confess, and NEVER cheat again. They learned their lesson once and decided that the guilt they felt was not worth the sex.
Other men cheat, either get caught or don't get caught, either confess or don't confess, and go on to have other affairs.
Only the person married to the cheater knows which category best suits her husband.
I find it interesting that people seeking a divorce in MY State list the reasons as: 1, Children and disagreements on how they should be raised OR the wife becomes primarily a mom; 2, finances; 3, no communication; 4, sexual problems.
I hear every day that "my wife and I had a wonderful relationship and then we had the baby and she had no time for me."