I have been at my job for about a year now and I had my first performance review. It had absolutely nothing to do with my actual performance at work. My boss told me that I don't talk to the vice president enough. (He only comes to our office about once a month if that) She said that I shouldn't close my door when he's there and that when he takes us to lunch I shouldn't look down or not look at him because she dosen't know how he perceives that. And that I should ask if he needs water or something. He's not friendly and has never actually tried to get to know me. I feel like she wants me kiss his *** and I'm not doing that. She also said don't let the other co workers attitudes run off on me and take out the trash sometimes. Now I haven't been in the workforce long but I'm pretty sure a performance review shouldn't go like this. What should I do and do I have the right to be upset about how it went?
- DEBSLv 76 months agoFavorite Answer
Your manager should have discussed other parts of your performance as well, but I've had reviews like that especially when I was more junior. Remember managers are following guidelines given to them from HR or somewhere else. They also get input from others including those in other departments and other managers. Ignoring the exact details and reading into what you said a bit, it sounds to me that your manager is telling you need to market yourself better if you want to have opportunities to advance. It's not about kissing up to someone. It's about creating working relationships. Like it or not, a job is more than just the skills needed to do the actual job. Interpersonal skills are just as important. (In many cases you'll find people who know little about the actual job doing better than those who know the job inside and out.)
- RebeccaLv 66 months ago
The performance review you received is appropriate.
There is so much more to job performance than you getting your work done well every day. Part of the job is getting along with your coworkers and the bosses, treating people with kindness and respect, pulling your weight, not being offended at every little thing. Some people call that office politics, others call it upwards management, you managing your relationship with your supervisors and bosses. I find it interesting that you call it ***-kissing. It's not. It's called successful management of relationships.
You seem to take the position that everybody should kiss your *** and bow down to you because you refuse to bow down to the boss. No one is asking you to bow down to the boss, just to be friendly and "available."
When you go to lunch with the group and don't contribute to anything, and you don't make eye contact with the VP, or engage him in any way, it says loud and clear you have some self-esteem issues. When the boss comes in and you shut your office door, you are saying that you are unavailable and unapproachable. When you say, in sum and substance, Why should I get to know the boss? He doesn't try to get to know me, what you're really saying is he's wrong for not getting to know you, as if he's obligated to do so, as if you want anyone to get to know you in the first place, as evinced by the fact that you shut your door when he comes around. Think you it's wise to alienate your boss this way?
You're offended that you have to take out the trash sometimes? The fact that she mentions it to you shows you that other people do take out the trash, and you think you're too good to take out the trash. You are passively showing everyone else what you think of them: You're better than everyone else. The fact that she tells you that you need to not let other people's attitude run over you shows that you get offended too easily and you are standoffish.
You say you haven't been in the workforce for very long but you're pretty sure they're not supposed to go like this? Reread your own second-to-last sentence. You haven't been in the workforce for very long. So how would you know what a performance review is supposed to be?
Now reread your very last sentence: "What should I do and do I have the right to be upset about how it went?"
A. Take what your supervisor says, who only has your success in mind, and be a little introspective. The words that you say about you mirror what she has said about you. That means you need to change some behaviors and attitudes.
B. No, you don't have the right to be upset, but you're looking for a right to be upset. That should tell you more about you than anything else. For what? Because your boss tells you you have a sh*tty attitude? You do. Change it or you'll be out of a job, and another job, and another job, and another job, and another job.
If you can do the three or four LITTLE things that she told you to work on, you will find that you will be much happier in your job, the VP and the boss and your coworkers will appreciate you more, and your next performance review will be much better. Or don't and get fired. Up to you.
I'm not trying to be harsh with you, far from it. Just explaining why it's appropriate and explain the things that the boss is telling you and why, and how it looks to her. I have hired and fired a lot of people over the years. The ones who keep the job are the ones who are friendly, approachable, and don't get offended so easily. The ones who lose the jobs are the ones who are difficult, complain a lot, standoffish, and make it clear to everyone else that they don't want to be there. That is passive aggressive behavior and it won't get you very far in life.
- zipperLv 66 months ago
A Performance review is what ever the floor manager makes it out to be. The VP may of said something to her about you. Plus it sounds like you are not very friendly yourself. Friend ship is a two way street!
- AlexLv 66 months ago
Whenever you get a performance review that you disagree with, take some time to gather your thoughts on each point that you have a problem with (no more than a day or two). Schedule some time to talk to your boss and explain your point of view for each of those points. Get some good discussion going for each area of concern. If you are not able to reach a common ground for those things bothering you, then you can make decisions at that point as to whether to just live with the negative review, or start seeking employment elsewhere.
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- EvaLv 76 months ago
She's telling you your attitude needs work. If you want to progress in the company, you need to be cordial to the higher ups. That's not ***-kissing. Your boss actually gave you some pretty valuable feedback. Since you state you haven't been in the workforce long, you need to pay attention when someone tries to help you by telling you how office politics work.
- Anonymous6 months ago
You have a poor attitude.
Way back when I had a job, I would fill out the same form as my boss on my performance and then we would compare. There were 5 choices and in a couple of areas, I was below average and I knew it. But in most areas I was not only above average but WAY above average. I forget the exact terms they used. Anyway, my boss refused to give me the highest mark even though I deserved the highest mark. So we argued about that. But at the end, I got a raise so I could live with it. Maybe it was Superior or Outstanding or something...the highest mark. But instead, I only got the next highest.