Guys I need your advice on my boyfriends behavior?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 12 years. He is 29, I am 30. He now tells me that he wants to participate in Palo mayombe religion. When I first met him he told me that his father was into that religion. I asked him if he was or ever was considering it. He said No, never. So I stayed with him. After all this time he tells me he wants to join this. I told him that if he was considering participating that I couldn't be with him anymore because I am not comfortable with it. He said, people change, I'm narrow minded, and am only thinking about myself. He said " I dont want to break up with you, you want to break up with me. I told him to call me back when he gets his life together. He calls me yesterday telling me that he misses me and he cant change his decision because its going to help him out. He said we will find a way to fix it. He calls me again later that night and dosent want to talk about the religion, when i bring it up he says hes not changing for me, its his way or the highway and he dosent want to be told what to do.This is very confusing for me, I seem to be getting mixed messages from him. Ultimately he knew a long time ago if he were to get involved with this that I would leave. If a guy really loves a woman wouldnt he do everything in his power to keep her or am i not being understanding?

Update:

He also told me " i dont know why im calling you if were never going to be on the same page"

Update 2:

already knowing that i would never change my feelings on the matter.

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  • Ocimom
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    End things now and move on. Many of these "religions" are more of a cult thing - they are not for real believers in God and Jesus.

  • Anonymous
    6 months ago

    As I said before, you need to learn two things: 1) how to spell mayonnaise, and 2) mayonnaise is NOT a religion. It's as if you're shouting in a thunderstorm!

  • Teal
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    He told you upfront that he isn't going to give up his religion for you. He keeps calling you because he assumes you are the one will eventually change your mind. You have already made your decision though and there is nothing left to discuss. Ignore his calls and move on. Differences of faith and values are a fundamental incompatibility. Your relationship is over.

  • lala
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    This guy doesnt love you anymore !!!

    Sorry for being honestly rude

    Comman !! you are 30 !!

    You knoe when you love someone you do not break their heart just for religion

    Its just a excuse to say ;;its finish

    Human are so hypocrite so they use a stupid excuse to get out of a relation

    Do not bend for a man who is not bending for you

    You deserve better in your life

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  • Brian
    Lv 7
    6 months ago

    I don't understand why he can't do his religious thing and you do your non-religious thing together. Think of it like a hobby - there's some hobbies he'll like to do that you won't and some you like to do that he doesn't enjoy so you do them alone. Not a big deal. Seems as if he's close minded as well and quite selfish. The choice is yours at this point.

  • steve
    Lv 6
    6 months ago

    Never heard of it but just looked it up.

    Anyone can find religion during their life.

    Palo mayombe religion does not seem at first reading to be anything of great concern. It does not appear to be linked with acts of terrorism or the occult.

    If you love him and he wishes to adopt it why is that a problem to you?

    Would you have a problem if he went from non religious to saying he wanted to become Christian?

    Seems to me he is simply following in his fathers footsteps and unless you know something I haven't found about the religion then it is you that has the issue.

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