Is my mom looking for her freedom again or you think she’ll find someone and have kids? Sorry just need answers I feel sick to my stomach?
My mom is 45 & kinda wants a divorce from my dad. She’s sad she has no life due to him kinda & many other things. My dad is a hard working takes care of the bills, money, but really not us. My mom is the one that does basically everything and it’s always been like that even when my two younger sisters were born I was like the father helping out because my dad was always working or at the gym or with his car. Now even after changing a lot he kinda went back into doing the same things or kinda taking an interest for it again due to the fact he can ever be his own person who ever he works with that person affects him and he’ll start being like them somewhat. From also helping out at on point it kinda stop and he’s more dead tired then before due to his work but still finds time for other things when he could help my mom out more. My mom feels no faint in him, she sees had all men are but also sees how some men really do have respect for their wife and stuff. I feel sad and depressed, also I worry she would find someone and have kids and have another family if you know what I mean...? If this was to happen the divorce me and my sisters would be with my mom. Do you think my mom is looking for that or looking for freedom and no more kids? My sisters are 10 and 8 I’m turning 20 in a few months
- FoofaLv 77 months ago
At 45 it's unlikely she'll have any more kids. But it does sound like your parents live on separate wavelengths and are probably only together out of habit.
- PearlLv 77 months ago
stop worrying about it, the worse that can happen is you get a cute baby around
- Anonymous7 months ago
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Eph 5?25)
Don't care if you're religious or not, there's a valid premise there. The story of Jesus is that He is God who gave up his comfort to suffer and die for humanity. As a husband, I have had to give up quite a bit. I used to have hobbies. As I got married, had children, and have prioritized things in life. I no longer have the time to do my own thing as often as I want.
Your father should better prioritize his time. A father's role impacts the family in ways that we're understanding more and more as there's an increase in fatherless homes.
Divorcing won't help your mom's situation. It'll just splinter the family and leave more issues with your siblings.
Your parents need counseling. It's possible that your mother may be contributing to your father's avoidance in some way.
- Anonymous7 months ago
I don't think there's one right answer to this difficult situation. He will be facing some kind of midlife crisis and your Mom will only perhaps even more so, too.
If the marriage isn't working because she doesn't appreciate your Dads hard work and hates having to do everything else herself, don't you think she deserves a chance at being happy? At 45 she'd need to go in for treatment if she wanted more children anyway.
It's going to be hardest for your 8 year old sister.
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- Emily JLv 77 months ago
She in kinda past the age where SHE can start a new family, so don't think that is possible, she may want to get away, but not start another family. Maybe she is just waiting for your sisters to get more independant and move away.