I feel trapped like in wasting my youth in my relationship? Is this wrong???just need advice :(?

OK, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years now. So practically all of my early 20's. (I'm not 30 yet) Anyway, he is a great guy, considerate and I do love him dearly. However, I feel like I am not doing much these days. Like he just got his feet together and is working 2 jobs like he wanted to make money and do what he loves which is handicapping. (Horses) anyway, we moved from the city to a rural town and there is nothing to do up here really, except for work..am I wrong for feeling this way? I feel guilty but i also don't want to look back and regret not living my life.... I already go back and forth to NY for a part time job and to see family but I know he doesnt like me being away, but when I'm in town there is nothing to do. I feel stuck. :( should I try to get a job in ny?

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  • 6 months ago

    Whether or not you have wasted your youth in your relationship depends on what you want in life. Maybe the move wasn't the smartest move for you, but that doesn't mean you need to make it your excuse for not pursuing your desires. Instead it sounds more like you are just in a rut, not wasting your life. You obviously need to try something new and not blame your boyfriend or your past decisions for the rut you are in, and instead do something to make a change for the better to get out of it.

    • linkus86
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      6 months agoReport

      Sensibility comes with maturity and many answerers on here are very young. They don't, yet, grasp the idea of taking responsibility for yourself. You do, I just want to make sure you include your boyfriend in your decisions, not inform him after the fact. Good Luck.

  • 6 months ago

    If you feel like this then leave.

  • Anonymous
    6 months ago

    I think what is happening is that you are suffering from a lack of emotional attention from your boyfriend. I think you should try and rectify this. What I would do is to be proactive and plan things. Remember, guys are always more hesitant to cancel when their partners plan something because they cannot live with the guilt. Additionally, try doing things that will help him relax. A guy can be so much more attentive to a woman's emotional needs when he is well rested and stress free. Finally, communication is key so don't be afraid to tell your husband how you are feeling. He needs to know what is going through your head for his own good, even if it hurts him. I really hope this helps :)

    Source(s): Would you say that your boyfriend has always been like this or is this something that has happened recently? Has he ever been the romantic type?
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