How do I stop thinking my fiancee will hate me?

I ve been in an amazing relationship for about 3 years. I have recently resigned from a job and am making considerably less money than before and it s triggering huge amounts of anxiety, (I m still employed just making less) this has caused me to lash out at my fiancee when he tries to help me out. When he helps me... show more I ve been in an amazing relationship for about 3 years. I have recently resigned from a job and am making considerably less money than before and it s triggering huge amounts of anxiety, (I m still employed just making less) this has caused me to lash out at my fiancee when he tries to help me out. When he helps me I feel worthless and like he s going to resent me for needing his help. I believe this is due to a past relationship and an instance where I was completely unemployed for a period of time and living off my savings. I had to cut back on the amount of social activities I could attend and things I could do in general to save money and my boyfriend at the time berated me for being worthless and a burden to him, he told all my friends how I couldn t afford to go out or on vacation with him and that I was horrible for having to ask him to pay for things. He complained to them that I thought I was living in the 50 s or something and needed to be more independent. I tried my hardest not to ask him for anything and not to burden him and honestly the times I had to ask for help were few. I ve been to counciling and thought I had a good handle on these feeling so I m surprised to have such a reaction at this point. I fear my fiancee thinks I don t want to really be a team because I refuse to let him help me which is not true, I just don t want him to hate me. Any advice about how to overcome these feelings?
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