First off, most people don't even know what an "incel" is but for those who DO know, they're perceived as whiny, entitled brats full of vitriol and bitterness, spreading their brand of hate on the internet. Why would anyone have sympathy for someone like that? Personally, I wouldn't have sympathy for a 400lb obese chick who complains that billionaire male models won't date her either.
The truth is that most incels are not really involuntarily celibate. They either isolate themselves from society rather than tackle issues like social anxiety or depression (which would allow them to have a better life) OR they refuse to date women in their own league OR they choose not to work on self-improvement (such as losing weight, becoming nicer people, or getting a job). All of that is nobody else's problem but their own. Many of them pretend to be nice but then they spend their time trash talking women online and they wonder why women see through that facade. I have seen posts by incels where they advocate the legalization of rape or claim that women should be assigned to them by the government. Sorry, but most people just cannot find sympathy for someone like that.
Also, you're wrong when you claim that women don't care about looks and that they're not visual. Women are attracted to a man's looks. A handsome shy man will get women hitting on him. An ugly confident man is more likely to be seen as a creep and rejected. Also, lots of poorer men have girlfriends and often men who suffer accidents or illnesses still have their woman stick by them. In fact, a woman is statistically more likely to stand by her man if he suffers from an illness than a man is likely to stand by his woman.
And no, women don't think ALL men are cheaters. Most women are aware that some men cheat, but statistically most men don't. There is so much other false information in the question details too. You seem to lack the logic to actually look around at the world and see past the online propaganda you've been fed.
By the way, women are autonomous human beings. They're not something to be "shared" by other men. They can make their own choices as to whom they wish to date or be intimate with. Perhaps seeing women as a "commodity" is a part of your problem. When you see a human being as a thing to be bartered and traded then why would they want to freely be with you?
There are people with REAL problems and suffering in the world and personally I feel for them. Most "suffering" that incels endure is self-imposed.