When you were kids, YOU LIKED HIM, He Liked You,
but you ARE NOT kids anymore.
Sooner or later ROMANCE develops in boys and girls.
IF YOU WANT, you can be AFRAID of it and run away, like a child, BUT when you see OTHER GIRLS with him, YOU WILL HURT.
Better to be HONEST with yourself and Him.
YOU LIKE HIM... Deal with it.
Never ASK someone for a Date.
Asking puts a person on the defense of HAVING TO MAKE a decision and giving you an answer.
Most people say NO, because No is SAFER for them. Later on
THEY MIGHT regret they said No and feel like they blew their chance with you.
If you INVITE someone to join you somewhere, they have time to think about it without pressure and can make a decision without giving you an answer/response.
To get a date without asking:
INVITATIONS and ASKING for a Date are the same thing,
but an invitation is easier to offer, rather than ask for a date.
Writing a note and handing it to him or having someone
hand it to him, will be okay.
Most invitations are in WRITTEN FORM. (add ph# so now He has it)
Texting also works, if/when you get their number.
Tell him where you will be on a certain day and at a certain time.
Let him know he is welcome to join you if he has time.
EXAMPLE: "Hi. I'm going to be at the park by the pond on Saturday at 2:30pm. You're welcome to join me if you have time. I will probably be bored, just feeding the ducks".
EXAMPLE: "I'm going for ice cream after school / work at (location), you can join me if you're not busy. My treat."
YOU WON'T HAVE TO FEEL EMBARRASSED if He declines.
It was just an invitation, NO BIG DEAL.
HOW TO BE WITH SOMEONE; ONE on ONE
Make wager (bet) with the person you want to spend time with.
Lose that bet to them INTENTIONALLY.
The wager should be something that puts you together alone and
away from everyone you know.
Make the wager something you can afford and non threatening
or too suggestive.
(an ice cream cone, a milkshake, a coffee, even washing a car)
EXAMPLE: "I'll bet you an ICE CREAM SUNDAE, I can say
the alphabet backwards faster than you."
Then LOSE the bet and take him for an ice cream sundae.
(enjoy your Date)
If it scares you to take these steps, keep in mind YOU'RE SCARED ANYWAY.
Also if some other girl gets his attention, you'll wish you had done SOMETHING.
CONFIDENCE is not about Succeeding. It's about NOT BEING AFRAID,
to Step Up, whether you get Accepted or Rejected.
After you get Accepted or Rejected, YOU WILL "Quit"
Torturing yourself with Worry, Curiosity and Desire.
But Don't Live in FEAR of the person you Desire.
Get Accepted or Rejected, but settle this FOR YOU.
REJECTION ONLY COUNTS, IF YOU ACCEPT IT
IF HE SAYS: "I don't want to ruin our friendship OR I just wanna be friends”
SMILE BIG, look him in the eye and say: "Then don't “F” this up for me."
Or explain to him. "We can still be friends if this doesn't workout.
Why would we HAVE TOO be enemies, just because we are not a match?"
KEEP SMILING... He will like that you are Confident... AND RIGHT... you don't have to be enemies… besides
Getting to know people is how FRIENDS ARE MADE.
Dating is a way to get to know a person.
TO HOLD HIS HAND
(you DO NOT have to be on a date, you just have to be near him)
When you have been with him for awhile and are side by side (walking, standing or sitting) gently take his hand and Say: "Can I borrow this for a little bit? I Promise to take care of it and return it in awhile" He will smile and probably be Impressed and Flattered. If he flinches and pulls away, chances are it’s a REACTION, NOT REJECTION. Smile and give him something of yours as a deposit/collateral and Let him know you want it back when you return him, his hand OR
Ask him if he would hold something for you and pretended you have something in your hand. When He agrees, PUT YOUR HAND IN HIS to hold.