Your expectations may be unrealistic. Here's some info from a book called You Just Don't Understand about men, women and communication styles.
For many men, communication is hard work. They have to do it at work, but they think when they're in a relationship, they can relax and not work so hard.
When women are asked who their best friend is and why, they'll say so-and-so because they tell each other everything. When men are asked, they cite the person they do things with. In other words, men build relationships by doing things with the person, not by communicating. Most of the married women I know would tell you that they have a hard time getting their husbands to talk to them.