Wear what you want, most things go anymore. It’s no longer a time when there are set rules for funerals, wakes or cremations. My husband died two years ago, I was devastated, still am, and I didn’t want to be around people, no one except my daughter. No gatherings with people all through my house. My man wanted to be cremated and no funeral, no wake and he didn’t even want me to view him in death. I saw to those things. His family came unglued, that’s not the way their family did things. I’m sure if I’d had a funeral, I’d have worn the wrong color or style, or not shown enough grief or laid out the proper food. (Pizza rolls and mini corn dogs would have been a major faux pas I’m sure). It’s always something. I told everyone to piss off and not come to my door. I suggest you do you, try to gave some class, but be you. I think a few sparkles would liven up a dreary old funeral. Good luck.