Do you think a relationship could ever work like an exercise routine?
In the short term rebuke is depressing and painful and uncomfortable
But in the long term - it leads to positive spiritual, social and relationship gains
I used to know a guy who complained about how I was mean and rude to guys who wanted to date me but he also seemed to have more respect for me and treat me better whenever I did something that he thought was mean or rude
I wasn't rude in the aggressive sense but would be rude to guys who tried to get sexual with me
So sometimes a little bit of pain and discomfort makes the relationship better