Controlling people will eventually lower our self-confidence and hinder our ability to operate well.
He is dating someone much younger than him because younger people are easier to control.
Break up with him but NOT for someone else.
The man you are interested in is NOT interested in you.
Men fall for women whose looks attract them, and this happens right away even if they don't tell you about it.
IF they are attracted to you, you don't have to say a thing ... because they are already chasing after you and asking you out and trying to make you their girlfriend.
He will want a mature and independent woman. You are not that, if you have people driving you around. Only controlling men will want to drive your around everywhere.
And no, don't lie. Trust and honesty, together, are 65% of what makes a relationship work. You never have a guarantee your lies won't be discovered, and all lies end up destroying trust . .and therefore the relationship.