What happens when a cigarette smoker decides to kick the habit?
They KNOW the cigarettes are not good for them, so they throw them away. And THEN their brain resists change ... by creating "withdrawal symptoms".
The dynamics are the same when we break up with someone. We have, in a way, become addicted to them. And when the relationship stops, our brain resists adapting. Hoping that IF we hurt enough, we will go back to the relationship.
YOU have to outlast it.
Recognize that your missing and doubt is just the result of your brain being like a spoiled brat and not wanting to change. Like a toddler who tries to get its way by having a temper tantrum.
So you do what any wise parent in control would do. You LET the toddler scream on and ignore it. You get on with whatever you were doing and sooner or later the toddler gives up.
In relationships, it takes about 4-8 months to get over someone, but ONLY if we refuse to dwell on the past. Everytime we think about our ex, we are feeding that brain pattern OF thinking about them, and prolonging our healing.
So just relax. What you are feeling is exactly what people feel.
Be patient and don't think that your fear/doubt is real.
Just get on with your life, and when you catch yourself wondering/fearing . .say "yeah yeah" and turn your attention back to your REAL life .. to what is happening at this moment and what you are now doing in this moment.
If you really love someone you shouldn't be noticing? LOL.
No. that is what Infatuation is about, but infatuation is not love and is nothing LIKE love and never lasts.
You don't die sexually when you love someone. You DO notice others
But love is a choice and a decision. And if you have decided to love someone you look at the attraction to someone else and say "yeah, yeah", and then turn your attention somewhere else.
All the fireworks . .that belongs to the temporary phase of infatuation. If you are LUCKY, you will find you have chosen a mature, kind, emotinally-stable person who treats you well. They wont be perfect because no one is perfect, and they don't make your life wonderful because that isn't what love does. They give you the opportunity TO care and to give love, and that is where happiness comes from.