Loser? I'd say somebody who doesn't meet at full force societies predetermined norms. Somebody who isn't crazy rich, somebody who isn't as social as they should be, somebody who isn't perfect. This technically makes 99.999% of people on earth losers. In my books a win is having the guts to stand against what everyone expects of you as either a man or a woman. Be you, live your life as you, don't let anyone stand in your way. If somebody feels the need to fit in based on somebody else's views they've already lost their integrity. It's okay to fail as that's part of human nature. As in doing so we eventually succeed. However if you give up your integrity that's like not facing your fears, not challenging whats considered normal, not learning from your mistakes. At that point you're the biggest loser of all. Because rather than learn and try again, you give up all together.