Hi from North Dakota!, my name's Mark I'm 17 and gay. Yes, while I don't self-identify as "red neck" I understand your point. It's not racism at all. In fact, I love African American guys, but the problem is that at least in my almost-rural town there are none, much less Asians. I know Hawaii is an awesome place and full of diversity, as well as California and Washington itself.
I please ask you not to tar everybody with the same brush. I particularly love Asian men and had crush on many J-movies' actors.
You just have to find the correct person: open-minded and kind.
Very kind regards.