My daughter watched me get arrested for an unpaid speeding ticket. How should I talk to her about this? (Revised)?
My daughter, who was in the car with me, watched as the police handcuffed me behind my back. We sat on the sidewalk together for about 30 minutes with me in handcuffs before my husband could pick her up and they took me to jail. I couldn't post bail until Monday, so I ended up being in jail for 3 nights. She seemed fine at the time of the arrest. We sat and talked and I explained what the handcuffs were and why I had to wear them. However, since I was released she's been very quiet and distant.
I've tried to explain the situation to her multiple times. I told her that I made a mistake and had to pay the consequences for it, and that the police were good guys who had to do their jobs to arrest me. I think she was especially bothered by the handcuffs and I'm worried she is traumatized from seeing her mom like that. What can I tell her to ease her mind? How should I be approaching these conversations?