Having been a feminist until about 4 years ago, yeah ... you're right. They talk about "the patriarchy" and "the system" in public, but mostly they talk about men being the oppressors, and they're quick to say "oh well he's an exception" when somebody talks about a brother, son, father or husband.
You'll even hear "but not all men are like that", but the "but" is telling: The implication is that MOST men are like that.
By-and-large, feminists don't have a clue what it is like to be on the other side of feminism, so they don't know when their actions are equal and when they are simply grossly overplayed or silly.
The exception, male feminists, also seem to discount what guys go through. "We should be able to handle that". By some strange definition of "should".