It's all about behavior. I'm white and I am disgusted with the way many white people act. I am disgusted with myself, also, so, yes, those of us who hate our own race (because of the arrogant, slovenly, entitled way whites act toward others and the lack of morals they adopt for themselves) also hate ourselves, because we see the same low values programmed into us from our neglectful, abusive, lazy, self-focused parents. And it's hard to overcome those dysfunctional belief systems we were raised with. I dislike many blacks because of the way they act, not because of the color of their skin. I have heard of black women telling each other "you should act more black!" like being black means you should be loud, obnoxious, rude, quick to cause a fight, arrogant and entitled. I have also seen many blacks who are kind, polite, friendly, forgiving, patient, respectful and willing to help. I suspect that those who are for acting "black" would scorn these kindly people because they successfully meld into that is considered the white man's society (that is, business society).