I think we are being too hard on him. Look , I am not saying he dont have to get his act together but make that clear to him. When the time is right HAVE his baby and not just for him , for you as well. Look I believe boys will be boys , I believe he worships you and loves you. Despite his depression , his depression will go away as you become his reward in a way. I dont know your love life right now , but this man you speak of I feel is one for you. If he makes you feel good about yourself , listens to you , makes you laugh , is faithful, honey give the man a chance. I think you will make a excellant mother. And the child will be born lucky to his mom. All I am saying is give the man a chance, invite him to diner. Wear a stylish shoulder cut shirt , stylish Jean's or shorts. Boots or stylish thing sandals. Explain to him , you will be his reward if he cleans his act up , gets a job. He loves you trust me. Your baby will change your life . Have his baby .