Yes and no.
I'm not passive and fatalistic, I think things happen because we MAKE them happen, not because they're fated to happen. WE are in control of our lives, for better or worse. In this world you must do or be done to.
On the other hand, some things are impossible and you shouldn't beat your heat against the wall trying to do the impossible. I don't see that as 'fate', but as the laws of nature.
You know the old 'prayer' they use in Alcoholics Anonymous, asking for the serenity to accept things that can't be changed, the courage to change things that can be change, and the wisdom to know the difference. It's like a drunk man riding a horse--he can fall off either side, the art is in balancing.