Plenty of 20 year olds are given everything by their parents. Condos, cars, educations, teips, clothing money, restaurant money. They might seem very sophisticated and grown but they are completely dependant.
Your mindset was put into the middle class by the upper middle class. They tricked them into not doing anything for their kids so, their kids can beat them.
Poor parenting would be putting that boy in a home and keeping him drugged.