Do you think punishment has to be very unpleasant to be effective ?

Question

the reason I ask is my parents have changed tactics with their punishments, before when I misbehaved I was grounded for a day no tv etc, this didn't really bother me or deter me from bad behaviour, I would come home late, sneak out when grounded etc, last weekend my parents said they were going to punish me...

Answer 1

For me, I need only be told that I did something wrong and I will not do it again. The feeling of shame and embarrassment that I felt about doing something wrong is unpleasant enough to be effective for me.

Answer 2

You have been posting this for years
Boring.

Answer 3

It has to be unpleasant to teach responsibility and restraint. The very depends on the magnitude of the offense.

Answer 4

Yes because with today's gen they are treated with kid gloves and they learn NOTHING. It has to be harsh otherwise you never learn right from wrong. The only times its not right is when the parent goes overboard and breaks their kids nose with a punch and I know 1 evil mother who punched her 3 month old baby that way

Answer 5

No, we should let the person being "punished" lounge on a couch and eat chips, that'll teach them not to hide the remote anymore.

Answer 6

That is why it is called punishment because it is unpleasant.

Answer 7

Punishment has to be something that you definitely do no want to repeat.

Answer 8

Punishment works but it has limited usefulness in learning, something that been shown repeatedly in behavior research.

The mild punishments did not work on you as an individual. They didn't work because of your indifference to your parents' feelings. You knew that what you were doing really bothered them and your attitude was, "Why should I give two s****?"

There are young people who do care about their parents' feelings and much milder punishments are effective for them.

Your problem most likely originated in your early childhood, when your parents failed to teach you the significance of the word "no," a mistake that must have given them years of misery.

Answer 9

Yes, if you don't learn from less unpleasant punishment. Punishment is intended to modify your behavior by making you act in a way that will keep you from being punished.

Answer 10

Yes. It’s like pain. The more pain is involved the less likely a person will not repeat the action.
Unfortunately some will never learn