First of all, I want you to know no matter why you did what you did , you were doing your best to protect me so I can have a good life and I thank you . You will get better , you will find peace and happiness.
To answer the question CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE ...if they a good solid foundation like you can only get from your parents they would not be like they are. It is solidly smack dab the mother and fathers fault , had they done right by their children , they would be happy , loving self contained adults or older kids. Not the egomaniacs , who think only of themselves like you described. I am sorry you have that also to deal with. Life is not fair and the true measure of a man is not in what happens to him , but how he bears up under misfortune and challenges. There will be heroes like yourself and there will be punk worthless individuals, hopefully they will become better people but im not counting on it. .