You can help him by being the person unafraid to mention the elephant in the room. Many people don't bring up the lost loved one, fearing they'll add to the hurt, when it's better for the bereaved to be able to talk about her.
So when you see your grandpa, there will be times when your thoughts just naturally turn to your grandma. Instead of keeping that to yourself, speak up. "These dishes were Grandma's favorites, right?" or "Grandma always said she'd read Time magazine but I don't think she did." Whatever your thought was, so long as it doesn't diss her.
People long married have to create a new normal that includes seeing other people. If he isn't social, encourage him to get out, even if it's just shared errand running. He needs to leave home, talk to other people, and do things for pleasure. Visits and calls will be more important to him now, breaking the silence in her absence.
I'm sorry for your loss, and his.
· 8 months ago