Known my friend for 11 years and all she does is dump her problems on me?

I am so sick of it. I told her many times nicely that I have enough on my plate as it is and that I needed to work on myself because I felt I was being taken advantage of. She never listens. So she called me today with another one of her "problems" and I yelled at her that I was sick of her dumping her **** on me and that I had enough of her nonsense and I wasn't gonna deal with anymore of her drama and to stop using me and I needed distance from her for awhile. I hung up on her. the only time she calls is to dump her drama on me. this time though after I hung up I blocked her. i got enough on my plate with my grandfather whose slowly dying, stress at work, and i also have depression. but now i feel bad for yelling at her. but i can only take so much. should i just keep her outta my life? would u have handled this the way i did? or did i go about this wrong?

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  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    I knew someone like that. Her whole day seemed to revolve around talking to people on the phone. The worst part was, I have tinnitus, and have difficulty hearing on the phone...so I'm struggling to make out a conversation that's boring me to death, anyway! Finally I said, "Don't call."

  • 2 years ago

    Not sure why you answer the phone in the first place... and if you think you two are friends, think again.

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    I knew a woman like this - and finally I could not take it anymore, so I simply stopped emailing her. We did more emailing than calling. I did visit her and her family a number of times but there really wasn't much between us - no real connection. I can understand out of frustration how you yelled at her - I hope that she got the message. If she does speak to you again, you could apologize to her about yelling at her but if she starts dumping on you again, just say goodbye and good luck.

  • 2 years ago

    Take a break from her... she sounds depressing.

    You need to start hanging out with positive people.

    People who are always negative can surely bring you down.

    And by the sounds of it, you have enough of your own problems, to be constantly listening to her complaining.

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