All you can do is try to explain that you are sick of being in a downer mood.
You need something uplifting, or you will have a nervous breakdown.
Etiquette for Children: do not go to dances, teas, receptions, and dinner or birthday parties for friends. Children should observe at least a three-month mourning period.
In the olden days it was expected that the close family would be in mourning (aka Bereavement) for the RULES (yes there are rules: For the death of grandparents and siblings: four months of heavy mourning, four months of light: for a total of 8 months Times have changed it is now down to: For a grandparent or sibling - three months.
• Heavy or deep mourning: an all-black costume and no jewelry with colored stones. All white is also full mourning and may be worn at necessary social functions or in the country.
• Light or second mourning: Clothing characterized by black and white mixtures, grey, mauve, violet, lavender, and similar colors, including patterned fabric.