Can you change a guy’s mind about relationships?
So I’m kinda interested in this guy in school and I kind of like him. I met him about two months ago in English class and we joke a lot, he’s chill and fun to talk to. He said he wants to hook up if I’m interested. We don’t talk outside of school but inside of school he’s flirty and touchy. We haven’t hooked up but I’m wondering if I could turn it into an actual relationship if I hold off and make him work a little? I think he’s really interested and attracted so maybe he’d be willing to put in effort to be with me. He’s not a major f-boy, and he said he had a girlfriend but he doesn’t see the point in relationships because they end quickly. Can you change someone’s mind if they think like that?
*BY THE WAY, by hook up i mean kissing and that type of stuff, nothing risky, just some basic hs stuff
- James W.Lv 71 year ago
The key question is whether or not he's a strong guy.
Could you possibly be making dating choices mainly based upon whether someone likes you and you like them? Unfortunately this approach to dating, used by most people, usually leads to a broken heart.
May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, mouth and money).
My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), forget about this guy unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you’re setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.
(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)
Hope this helps!
PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.Source(s): True Love Lasts - written with a character emphasis for teens through young adults, Straight Talk About Teen Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 13-19, Straight Talk About Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 20 and up
- Rick BLv 71 year ago
Hook up???? Have some self respect and pride. If that is what he is interested in, then move on.
- PedrobearLv 61 year ago
Sends nudes, that will change his mind