K, you need to INVEST in some reading. Books on how to pick up women, and relate to women. Obviously you're doing some things that are shutting them down, instead of more like commanding them to release their wardrobe and make you a sammich (you do want a sammich?) Okay. READ. It is not hopeless, you just need info.
You might also seek a support group or forum where you can compare notes with others in similar situations.
You haven't provided enough for us to offer any specifics as to what is shutting your intended partners down. Are you a Gen Z who is effeminate and tattooed on the face because everyone else is? Or do you parrot hate about how people should "get their own" and heil the republicans? Well, these are popular Gen z things, but if you're doing them, it doesn't make you seem a nice guy.
You should also work to weigh the right weight, and dress cool and like A MAN, and act confident. And it matters that you show compassion for others, but don't go too far and act like a girl. Biggest helpful thing I ever learned was women say they want one thing BUT ACTUALLY WANT THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT THEY SAID. So if you have been respecting their wishes and honoring their feelings on things, you may be giving off a wuss vibe. *shrug* It happens. You actually need to be an a$$hole. No really. Women like you to be rough around the edges and to seem uninterested (that's huge, NEVER act like you want them or like they could have you. NEVER make that error!)---> because people want what they can have / they don't want what they already managed to CAN have. So keep a girl in a state of having to try and get your attention. NEVER just give it to her. Good luck. There's a lot to this. But...you know, you could just be you, out in public, and wait till one sets her eyes ON YOU and makes the first move. At least THAT way you know you're dealing with someone WHO WANTED YOU. And from there, just don't act too needy or grateful. BE a little aloof. DON'T use a lot of words. BE the strong silent type ("brooding"), and use humor, and be kind to others All this stuff strikes girls as "masculine" and that's what they REALLY want no matter how many lies they tell otherwise!