Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 2 years ago

Girls, do you think it's sad that a guy has to resort to this to fill up his free time?

Let's say over the years, all of his friends have gotten married and moved on and at 30 years old he finds his social life has died out. So he's actively filled up his free time by joining social groups in his area, spends time volunteering, and has joined a few singles clubs in hopes to meet someone.

Do you think it's sad that he has to do this and wasn't able to get his friends to stick together and still hang out and do fun things as often as the past?

5 Answers

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    No, it’s not sad, it’s normal, people move on.

  • no, sounds fine to me

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    Not sad- just a bad/inefficient use of his time for dating. He would be much better off if he downloaded a TINDER dating app, and a BUMBLE dating app, on his phone.

    It’s sort of like how is dumb to go desperately door to door selling for remodeling services these days, when it’s much faster to just make an online yelp profile and have dozens of interested customers call you weekly.

    The Internet and technology has made in person searching for a girlfriend to be a very inefficient and unsuccessful use of your time. It’s less pressure and easier for girls to flirt with guys online first, and you can talk to a much larger pool of women in a short amount of time.

    The key is just making sure that you have pictures of you to make you look a good combination of attractive, financially successful, cool, and have friends and like you’re adventurous and fun

  • 2 years ago

    Sounds eminently suitable to me. It's not sad at all. He's 30 years old, has a load of acquaintances who may become close friends, is part of many social groups so he has a rich social life. His friends wouldn't stick together like young buddies when they married and had families. Life isn't like that. No doubt those friends with responsibilities occasionally look at him with envy at his footloose lifestyle.

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  • 2 years ago

    It's unfortunate that his friends aren't spending time with him any more, but that's not his fault. He is not going to be able to get a group of grown married people to "stick together" and "hang out" if they are busy with their spouses, children, jobs, houses and other obligations. There's absolutely nothing wrong with trying to expand his circle of friends by meeting new people and helping others in the process. It's admirable, imo.

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