Anonymous asked in Society & CultureReligion & Spirituality · 2 years ago

Why do you think many find "confidence" (i think they are referring to arrogance) "attractive" in others?

Shouldn't we try to put others before ourselves? And therefore why would people be attracted more to people who are "confident"(arrogant?) than to those who do not seem to be such?

I noticed that selfish user men tend to puff women up and give her "confidence" to get things like fornication. "You're so beautiful mami, you look like a statue, prjncess. You a queen"

3 Answers

  • Carym
    Lv 6
    2 years ago

    "Arrogance" is never attractive... and we should never compare it to 'holy boldness' and/or 'holy confidence.'

    Certainly, encouragement, support, and appreciation go along way. It provides security, hope, and recognition (without exhortation). But praising may very well result in all kinds of disadvantages, for example, snobbishness, self-praise, and arrogance.

    Such a person will never become a worthy leader. A worthy leader is respected for his leadership qualities and integrity, not because of sentiments and "praise props" -- When we are respected we gain the voluntary cooperation of people.

    To prevent our 'faith' from going up and down like a thermostat, we are requested to build it up---we can increase it by ourselves to some extent. [Jude 1:20] But you, dear friends, by building yourselves up in your most holy faith and praying in the Holy Spirit -- It provides much confidence and boldness"

    Christians also need reassurance from time to time (surely not for one's achievements), and the Holy Spirit provides exactly that. [Romans 8:16] The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are God's children -- Rest, peace, truth, love, hope are the influences of the Holy Spirit -- He keeps reminding us daily that we are God's children.

    So, from a Christian pov, "praise" belongs exclusively to God, the Creator of ALL things.

    I hope it helps you to clearly see the difference between 'recognition and honor,' AND 'boldness/confidence and arrogance.'

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    From an evolution point of view, it's quite obvious why women would find confident alpha male men attractive. It's instinct, and the instinct probably comes from the fact that when the women weren't attracted to confident, arrogant men, those men often died at the hands of stronger fighters, probably along with them, and their children. The world is a harsh place, always was, now is perhaps a different time, in some small corners of the world.

  • Anonymous
    2 years ago

    Confidence is far from arrogant. Confident people have no need for arrogance. arrogant people are just trying to appear confident, when in fact they are very insecure. That shows up on this board constantly. the arrogant name-callers, and the ones who belittle others never have any answer to any point. To back claims they know are wrong, they have only bluster and aggression.

    Confidence could be called a virtue. Arrogance a failure.

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