Why do family members turn their backs on you in your time of need?

Answer 1

Awhile back I almost died about 4 times from a ruptured appendix. I was sick for a long time. I learned who truly cares and who does not during that time period. Some people actually made things harder for me and my husband and others were very helpful for which we are forever grateful. You learn a lot about people as well as yourself during a crisis.

Answer 2

Many family members have become narcissistic esp since the early 1970s.
They use denial to not feel any emotion so they can continue to work for their bank accounts.

Answer 3

interesting question

Answer 4

I don't know. I've often wondered that myself. I feel sort of selfish for thinking it, because it's not like they owe me anything anyway. Whereas I owe them everything.
But it seems like the more you struggle, the harder you find things, the more stressed you become, the more violent, angry and misunderstanding people become. It's like they're screaming try harder, try harder, try harder, you're not good enough, when what'd truly help is a nice warm hug and somebody to listen.

I guess they just don't really understand what you're dealing with? You could use this as inspiration; you'll hopefully remember to always be there for people from now on because you know how bad it feels when no one's there for you.

Or, it could be that they want you to toughen up. I don't know what to think of that though really. These days, everything is kind of stressful and hard. We could all do with being a bit more compassionate to one another.

Answer 5

Most do but not all..People are the same whether its your family,friends or strangers.
They are self centered and use excuses not to help.
Usually money is their goal.

Answer 6

they need you to turn Back to Almighty God Allah

Answer 7

it easier to live when the only person you depends on in life is yourself & God .. you can either choose to dwell in self pity or you can choose to pull yourself together and move on. It's all a matter of time before the past will seem like a lesson well learnt and the present will seem like a gift ..

Answer 8

Because your need is false or you have abused your familial relationship in the past.

Answer 9

I've got news for you Anon, its not supposed to work like that. ;-)

Answer 10

Because at that point they have nothing to gain from you