I feel like the kind of girl you're talking about is both really easy to find and not, either way they're not gonna usually look like celebrities, so~ I hope you don't have that kind of expectation. For example, I could easily find the kind of girl you're talking about personality-wise at the public library. Hell, I kind of used to be one of those girls. I'm not anymore though. I'm might be sweet and charming. I do have a big heart full of kindness and charity. I've been volunteering since I was 14. I voted for Bernie Sanders and am still a Sanders supporter because of said charitable heart. But I have no set sense of fashion and will wear whatever I feel like. That could be a summer dress or hot pants. I would absolutely go partying, but I won't really drink because I don't really like to. I would go to expensive restaurants if I had money, but I probably wouldn't show it off because I think that's stupid. I would love to go to music festivals. I love music, both modern and classical.
I'm not arrogant, but I am opinionated. I voted for BERNIE SANDERS. I clearly have my own mind. Even when we hit the general election I still didn't vote for Hillary Clinton. That lesser of two evils is bullsh*t and bad for democracy. As for that respectable families nonsense... some of the best women come from very disreputable families. Sometimes being up close to the horrors of life can turn you into a very decent human being. I definitely don't come from a "respectable" family. In other words... the "perfect" girl is hard to find because it's normal to have flaws. The funny thing is that sometimes even when you get the supposed perfect person you may not be happy. That perfect person might not be what you need. Who knows. Anyways, I live nowhere near NY. I just used myself as an example. If I hadn't typed so much I might decide not to post this because I think I gave a waste my time kind of lecture to a stranger who won't read it. Anyways, if you're serious you can try the public library, book clubs, churches, or any place where people can volunteer to help a cause. Good luck.